A Shattered Dream: One Lost Soul (Part 1)

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By: Jamar Jackson-Wilson
June 11, 2025

A Shattered Dream: One Lost Soul (Part 1)

This is the first of a two-part blog series about overcoming adversity and adjusting your dreams.

Imagine looking down a dark hole everyday for the rest of your life and there is no light at the end of the tunnel. How does one land there? I grew up the middle child of 3 boys! While I have 2 younger siblings as well, growing up it was the older 3. Jermaine, Jamar (ME) and Jermyl, generally known as Maine, Mar, and Myl or the J boys. Never was there a boring day in our household.  We stayed very active, whether that be riding our bikes and scooters outside, to watching WWF wrestling and imitating our favorite wrestlers, Hulk Hogan, Macho Man, Sting, and the Ultimate Warrior to name a few.  My brothers and I did everything together, there was never a dull moment. One of our favorite things to do was to play basketball. We would have legendary battles playing together on the same team against other neighborhood kids or testing our skills against one another.  My love for basketball happened from day one. If I wasn’t at the park playing, we were in the house watching Michael Jordan play every chance we got on WGN network.  If anyone asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I had no doubt, I was going to be an NBA basketball player.

My love for basketball and Michael Jordan kept growing. The days where we couldn’t go outside and play, or days where a Chicago Bulls game wasn’t on, I was busy doing another hobby of mine, which was drawing.  I could sit and draw for hours. Most of the time I would draw pictures of Michael Jordan, or a WWF wrestler, or a comic book character.  I spent a lot of time drawing NBA logos and Nike shoes. It all made sense to me; I could one day be a Nike athlete playing in my own signature shoes, the Nike Air Jamar! I would come up with my own designs for the sneakers that I would one day wear while living out my dream of playing in the NBA.  It’s safe to say I had a big imagination with big dreams.  Nothing or no one could convince me I was not going to make it.

4th of July 1994 was like any other summer day except the big fireworks show would be at night and we always looked forward to seeing the bright colors bursting in the sky.  My brother Jermyl and I were invited to see the fireworks with our cousins. We were going to see the firework show at Washington Park.  Now normally in our neighborhood you had to be in front of the house once the streetlights came on, but on this day we got a pass to stay out later because the show didn’t start until about 9pm.  We had a fun time seeing the fireworks and after the show we were supposed to go back home, instead we went roaming around the neighborhood.

48th and Lloyd is where we landed, and the moments that followed changed my life forever. The holiday was being celebrated by everyone throughout the streets.  We saw other families celebrating and popping their own fireworks and the five of us had arrived to what we thought would be more fun and joy as the night went on.  What we noticed almost immediately was the recklessness that was happening around us. Unsupervised teenagers were popping fireworks in an unsafe way. They were launching their own personal bottle rockets in the direction of innocent bystanders.  One person would load the a rocket into a sprite bottle, the second person would be holding the bottle serving as the shooter, and the third person would light the rocket so that it could launch. One after another, back to back to back, they would light these explosives non-stop.  These rockets were coming directly at us like they were war missiles, flying one by one past our heads. It was like a game of dodgeball out there, except this did not feel like a game.  My cousins and my brother and I all decided this is not a place we should be and told each other let’s get out of here before something goes bad. BOOM! It did go bad! The next firework landed directly in my right eye. Imagine some missile coming at you that you never saw coming going over 70 miles per hour and it explodes right into your eye. Well that’s exactly what happened to me. 

I instantly dropped to my knees, and chaos was all around me. A whole crowd of people rushed around me in a panic, and I was as bloody as any crime scene you could imagine. I remember some kids yelling oh my God his eye is gone, it’s missing! More panic set in, heart beating fast, I placed my hand gently near my eye to feel if something was still there. My eye was still there, but there was too much blood to open it. Jermyl was crying and I was completely disoriented. We weren’t too far from my cousin’s house and my cousin told me we need to get you home. That walk home, only one block away, felt like miles!  I remember saying these exact words “my basketball career is over” and there it is, a dream shattered.

Well my dream was not the only thing that shattered.  I was rushed to the emergency room and they told me I had to have emergency surgery immediately.  I was told that my eye was shattered and they would have to sew it back together.  I never even knew an eye could get stitches. It seems like our eyes would be too sensitive to have a needle stitching it back together. My optimistic mindset before hearing such bad news was, maybe I just have a cut above my eye and maybe I just need stitches from a cut above my eye. At least that is what I hoped for. Once they told me I had to have surgery, I was so scared. Every piece of news they dropped on me led me to being even more scared. Nothing they said made me feel any better. The next thing they told my parents was that we need to remove his eye, he could potentially go blind permanently because his immune system could attack itself in trying to replicate his damaged eye. This condition is called sympathetic ophthalmia. According to the National Institute of Health, “Sympathetic ophthalmia is a rare, devastating disease defined as bilateral uveitis following an eye injury. The condition may result in permanent bilateral vision loss in an otherwise healthy patient with no ocular morbidities.”

To say my world was crushed is an understatement. I was devastated. It wasn’t just that my eye was broken or shattered, I felt my soul was taken from me.

Imagine looking down a dark hole every day for the rest of your life and there is no light at the end of the tunnel. There is no hope. What I wanted was snatched from me. The morning of the 4th of July 1994 everything was fine. i had no idea that later that day my life would change forever. What’s going to help me, what’s going to happen now? I could go blind. No more basketball, no more drawing, no more playing with my brothers. Just a dark hole to stare down!  I spent 3 weeks in the hospital, they evaluated me day after day to see if any signs of vision were coming back, but no light ever came back on. Each day felt more and more dark around me. To be continued….

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Jamar Jackson-Wilson

Examples of What We Offer

Here are some specific examples of what partnership with us can look like. Every plan is customized — this is just a starting point.

PD Workshop Examples

Classroom wellbeing audit 

Classroom teachers assess their current wellbeing supports, identify specific strengths and gaps, and actively engage with research-based strategies to create an action plan for supporting student wellbeing in the classroom. This audit is more than a checklist—it’s a mirror that reflects how your everyday choices shape the mental health and wellbeing of everyone in your classroom. By pausing to rate, reflect, and plan, you will:

  1. Surface hidden stress points and strengths in your routines, environment, and relationships
  2. Connect concrete teaching practices (pacing, feedback, space design) to student and educator wellbeing
  3. Build shared language and data‐driven insights to guide micro‐interventions and systemic change
  4. Empower yourself and colleagues to co‐design evidence-based strategies that boost resilience, engagement, and trust
  5. Establish a continuous improvement cycle: audit → act → measure → refine

Specialized mental health skill-building workshops 

This goes beyond basic literacy to provide staff with practical skills and techniques for managing specific situations and promoting positive mental health within the school. 

Examples

  1. “De-escalation Strategies for School Staff.” A hands-on workshop teaching verbal and non-verbal techniques for safely de-escalating agitated or distressed students. 
  2. “Building Resilience and Coping Skills in the Classroom.” A training focused on equipping teachers with activities and strategies they can directly implement with students to foster resilience, teach coping mechanisms for stress, and promote emotional regulation. 
  3. “Creating Trauma-Informed Classrooms.” A workshop series exploring the impact of trauma on learning and behavior, and providing practical strategies for creating a safe, predictable, and supportive classroom environment that promotes healing and learning.
  4. “Mental Health & Wellbeing First Operational Mindset for Administrators”: When school leaders shift from a purely operational mindset to a mental‑health‑first mindset, the entire culture changes—students feel safer, staff feel supported, and families feel more connected. This workshop provides high‑impact, administrator‑friendly strategies. They’re concrete, actionable, and designed to fit into the real world of school leadership.

Adult SEL development 

Just as students benefit from developing social-emotional skills, so do adults. Adult SEL focuses on educators understanding their own emotions, managing impulses, setting goals, showing empathy, building healthy relationships, and making responsible decisions. 

Examples

  1. Interactive Workshops: Conduct workshops exploring each of the core SEL competencies (self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, relationship skills, responsible decision-making) through activities, group discussions, and reflection exercises.  
  2. SEL Integration Training: Train staff on how to weave SEL into their daily interactions, curriculum, and classroom management strategies. This includes explicit instruction on SEL concepts for students, creating opportunities for students to practice SEL skills, and integrating SEL into academic content.
  3. Emotion Regulation Strategies: Provide specific training on recognizing and managing challenging emotions in the workplace, including strategies for de-escalation and maintaining composure during stressful situations.

Integration of mental health into curriculum 

Embedding mental health education within the regular curriculum normalizes these topics, reduces stigma, and equips all students with foundational knowledge and skills related to their emotional well-being. Rogers’ understanding of key mental health concepts can inform curriculum development.

Examples

  1. Developing SEL Lessons with Mental Health Components: Collaborate with teachers to integrate lessons on topics like emotional regulation, empathy, and conflict resolution into existing Social-Emotional Learning (SEL) curricula, drawing on Rogers’ therapeutic approaches.
  2. Incorporating Mental Health Themes into English Language Arts: Suggest age-appropriate literature that explores themes of mental health, resilience, and seeking help, and provide teachers with discussion guides developed with input from mental health professionals.
  3. Creating Interactive Activities for Health Class: Develop engaging activities and projects for health classes that teach students about common mental health conditions, coping strategies, and how to access support.

PD Training Examples

Mental health literacy training 

This partnership focuses on equipping school staff with a foundational understanding of mental health concepts, common disorders in children and adolescents, and the importance of early identification and intervention.

Examples

  1. Elementary School Workshop: “Understanding Childhood Anxiety.” Topics could include:
    1. Different types of anxiety in elementary-aged children (separation anxiety, social anxiety, generalized anxiety).
    2. Observable signs and symptoms in the classroom (e.g., avoidance behaviors, physical complaints, difficulty concentrating).
    3. Strategies teachers can use to create a more supportive and less anxiety-provoking classroom environment (e.g., predictable routines, clear expectations, calming techniques).
  2. High School Professional Development Day: “Recognizing and Responding to Teen Depression and Suicidal Ideation.” Topics could include:
    1. Distinguishing between typical adolescent moodiness and signs of depression.
    2. Understanding risk factors and warning signs for suicide.
    3. Evidence-based strategies for talking to students who may be struggling.
    4. School protocols for reporting concerns and accessing support services.
  3. Customized Training for Special Education Staff: “Mental Health Considerations for Students with Learning Differences.” A tailored workshop addressing the unique mental health challenges that students with IEPs may face and strategies for integrating mental health support into their educational plans.

Trauma-Informed practices 

Trauma-informed practice recognizes the widespread impact of trauma and understands potential paths for recovery. In a school setting, this means understanding that students (and staff) may have experienced trauma and that these experiences can affect behavior, relationships, and learning. Training helps staff recognize the signs of trauma, respond in a way that avoids re-traumatization, and create a safe and supportive environment. It also includes understanding secondary trauma or compassion fatigue that educators may experience when working with individuals who have experienced trauma.

Examples

  1. Introductory Workshop: A foundational training on the prevalence and impact of trauma, the principles of trauma-informed care (safety, trustworthiness, peer support, collaboration, empowerment, cultural humility), and recognizing signs of trauma in students and colleagues.
  2. Skill-Building Sessions: Workshops focused on specific trauma-informed strategies, such as creating predictable routines, using de-escalation techniques, fostering a sense of safety and control, and promoting student voice and choice.
  3. Addressing Secondary Trauma: Training specifically addressing the impact of working with traumatized individuals on the helper, providing strategies for self-care and seeking support to prevent compassion fatigue and burnout.

Educator Resilience-Building Workshop Examples

Mindfulness and stress reduction workshops for staff 

Mindfulness involves paying attention to the present moment without judgment. Stress reduction techniques are practical strategies designed to lower physiological and psychological responses to stress. Training in these areas equips educators with tools to manage the inherent demands and pressures of their job, cultivate a sense of calm, and increase their capacity to be present and responsive.

Examples

  1. Workshop Series: A series of workshops (30-60 minutes each) delivered after school or during professional development time. 
  2. Short, Practical Sessions: Offer 15-minute guided mindfulness or breathing exercises before staff meetings or during designated breaks.
  3. Online Modules: Provide access to self-paced online modules on stress management and mindfulness techniques.

Building resilience (CLE)

Resilience is the ability to adapt well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress. Training in resilience helps educators identify their strengths, develop positive coping mechanisms, cultivate optimism, and build strong support networks. 

Examples

  1. Interactive Workshops: Sessions exploring the key components of resilience (e.g., self-awareness, self-regulation, optimism, connection, purpose). Activities could include identifying personal strengths, developing positive self-talk strategies, and practicing problem-solving skills.
  2. Goal Setting and Action Planning: Training on setting realistic goals and developing action plans to navigate challenges and achieve a sense of accomplishment.
  3. Building Support Networks: Facilitating discussions and activities that encourage staff to build strong relationships with colleagues and identify external sources of support.

Enhancing school climate – for the staff

School climate refers to the quality and character of school life. A positive school climate for staff is characterized by trust, respect, collegiality, collaboration, and a sense of belonging. Consultation focuses on identifying areas for improvement and implementing strategies to foster a more supportive and positive environment.

Examples

  1. Team-Building Activities: Recommending and facilitating team-building activities that promote positive relationships and a sense of community among staff.
  2. Recognition and Appreciation Programs: Consulting on developing formal or informal programs to recognize and appreciate staff contributions and efforts.
  3. Creating Opportunities for Social Connection: Advising on creating spaces and opportunities for informal social interaction among staff.

Systemic Examples

Needs assessment and strategic planning (CLE)

A systematic process of gathering information about the current state of staff wellbeing within the school, identifying key stressors, and understanding the needs and preferences of the staff. This data then informs the development of a targeted and effective plan for implementing wellbeing initiatives.

Examples

  1. Administering Surveys: Using anonymous surveys to gather data on staff stress levels, workload perceptions, access to resources, and interest in different types of wellbeing support.
  2. Conducting Focus Groups: Facilitating small group discussions with staff from different roles (teachers, administrators, support staff) to gain deeper qualitative insights into their experiences and needs.
  3. Reviewing Existing Data: Analyzing existing school data such as attendance records (staff absences), staff turnover rates, and incident reports (if relevant to stress/conflict).
  4. Collaborative Goal Setting: Working with the school leadership team and wellbeing committee to set specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART) goals for improving staff wellbeing.

Developing supportive policies and practices 

Examining existing school policies, procedures, and unwritten norms to identify those that may contribute to staff stress or hinder wellbeing. Consulting on modifications or new policies that actively promote a healthy work environment.

Examples

  1. Communication Protocols: Advising on establishing clear and efficient communication protocols to reduce ambiguity and information overload.
  2. Meeting Structures: Consulting on making meetings more efficient and purposeful, perhaps by designating some meetings specifically for collaboration or wellbeing check-ins rather than just information dissemination.
  3. Establishing Boundaries: Providing guidance on establishing and respecting professional boundaries regarding work emails and communication outside of school hours.

Consultation on school mental health systems 

This involves leveraging Rogers’ understanding of best practices in mental health care to advise schools on the development and implementation of comprehensive systems that support student and staff well-being.

Examples

  1. Developing a School-Wide Mental Health Protocol: Consulting with a school district to create a clear and consistent protocol for identifying students in need of mental health support, conducting initial assessments, making referrals, and collaborating with external providers (including Rogers, if appropriate).
  2. Implementing a Multi-Tiered System of Supports (MTSS) for Mental Health: Advising a school on integrating mental health supports within their existing MTSS framework, ensuring that all students receive appropriate levels of support based on their needs.
  3. Conducting a Mental Health Needs Assessment: Partnering with a school to administer surveys and conduct focus groups with students, staff, and parents to identify key mental health needs and inform the development of targeted interventions and supports.

Integrating wellbeing into existing structures 

Embedding wellbeing initiatives within the school’s existing operational framework rather than treating them as separate, add-on programs. This ensures long-term sustainability and demonstrates that wellbeing is a priority.

Examples

  1. Professional Development Alignment: Integrating wellbeing topics into regular professional development days or staff training sessions.
  2. Staff Meeting Agendas: Including a dedicated agenda item for staff wellbeing check-ins or sharing wellbeing tips during weekly staff meetings.
  3. School Improvement Plans: Incorporating goals related to staff wellbeing into the school’s overall improvement plan.

 

Coaching Examples

Leadership coaching

Coaching specifically designed for school administrators and team leaders. This focuses on developing their leadership skills related to supporting staff wellbeing, creating a positive team culture, and effectively managing workplace dynamics that can impact stress levels.

Examples

  1. Promoting Work-Life Balance: Coaching leaders on modeling healthy work-life boundaries and encouraging their staff to do the same.
  2. Building Team Cohesion: Working with leaders on strategies to foster a sense of teamwork, trust, and psychological safety within their teams.
  3. Mentor Coaching for New School Administrators on Fostering a Positive School Climate: Pairing experienced administrators with new leaders and providing coaching focused on creating a supportive and mentally healthy environment for both students and staff.

Individual wellbeing coaching

A confidential and supportive partnership between a trained coach and an individual staff member. The coach helps the staff member identify their wellbeing goals, explore challenges, develop strategies, and build self-awareness and resilience. This is particularly helpful for staff experiencing high levels of stress, burnout, or those seeking to proactively enhance their wellbeing.

Examples

  1. Goal Setting Sessions: Initial coaching sessions focused on helping the staff member clarify their wellbeing goals (e.g., reducing stress, improving work-life balance, developing better coping skills).
  2. Strategy Development: Working with the staff member to identify and practice specific strategies for managing stressors and improving wellbeing (e.g., time management techniques, communication skills, boundary setting).
  3. Reflection and Problem-Solving: Providing a space for the staff member to reflect on their experiences, process challenges, and problem-solve difficult situations.

Instructional coaching with a wellbeing lens 

Integrating conversations and support around wellbeing into existing instructional coaching cycles. This recognizes that teacher wellbeing is intertwined with their classroom practice and provides a holistic approach to support.

Examples

  1. Managing Classroom Stressors: Coaches can work with teachers to develop strategies for managing challenging student behaviors, reducing classroom disruptions, and creating a more calm and predictable learning environment.
  2. Building Positive Student Relationships: Coaching on techniques for building strong, positive relationships with students, which can be a source of both joy and stress for teachers.
  3. Workload Management within Instruction: Helping teachers prioritize tasks related to planning, grading, and differentiation in a way that feels manageable.
  4. Reflecting on Emotional Responses: Coaching teachers to reflect on their emotional responses to classroom situations and develop strategies for managing those emotions constructively.

Peer coaching programs 

Training selected staff members to serve as peer coaches for their colleagues. This leverages internal expertise and fosters a culture of mutual support within the school. Peer coaches can provide a confidential and relatable source of support, sharing strategies and offering encouragement.

Examples

  1. Coach Training: Training peer coaches in basic coaching skills, active listening, confidentiality, and boundary setting.
  2. Structured Check-ins: Establishing a structure for peer coaching interactions, such as regular informal check-ins or more formal scheduled conversations.
  3. Providing Resources: Peer coaches can share relevant wellbeing resources with their colleagues.