A Shattered Dream: One Lost Soul (Part 2)

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By: Jamar Jackson-Wilson
August 5, 2025

A Shattered Dream: One Lost Soul (Part 2)

This is the second of a two-part blog series about overcoming adversity and adjusting your dreams.

As a kid I thought you would go to the hospital and they would fix you there. You were supposed to come back out better than you came in. Ok yeah they patched up my wound, but a bigger wound was being developed and eating away at me by the minute. My shattered dreams lead to a lost soul. What am I to do now? Who am I to become, no one knows what this is like. I knew not one single person that had gone through something like this.

I spent 3 weeks in the hospital, everyday doing tests to see if vision could possibly return, while also being under critical watch for the good eye I had left being heavily monitored so that it wasn’t starting to lose vision. Luckily I never lost sight in the left eye, but I still felt utterly hopeless.

Upon leaving the hospital life as I knew it was all different now. My body was weak from being in the hospital bed for 3 weeks, and all those meds running through my system. I had no energy at all, I just wanted to lay there and wish I had woke up from a bad nightmare.

I didn’t want to be outside anymore, I had no hope of ever playing basketball again, and just felt like I was in the world alone. My family was a good support system but they didn’t know how much I was suffering inside. You see, the thing is, I never complained about it out loud. The neighborhoods that I grew up in,you did not show your pain, you hide it. You had to be tough or else you were considered weak, and the weak were always victims of jokes, and being treated poorly. I was no different.

I never wanted to leave the house, I spent the summer in the house, basically depressed. By the time school started back I had no choice but to be back outside, and that is when my world was rocked again. So many people would come up to me staring and pointing directly at my eye. It was like they couldn’t even help themselves, “what happened to your eye”, “ what’s wrong with his eye?”, “why is your eye lazy”, “who is he looking at?” It was like the movie ground hog day, reliving the same story day after day. That was my pain, it was what i carried and it was day after day, same comments, same questions, same torment. It was already bad enough I couldn’t see out of my eye, what made it worse was the constant talking about it, day after day, over and over again. I questioned God, why did this happen to me? What did I do to deserve this? I lived in emotional hurt for years.

I put down my dream of playing basketball, I didn’t feel I ever could be good enough and felt I was at a disadvantage. As fate would have it i met some guys that to this day are my life long friends. One of them, James, was into music, and started playing me some songs he had made in his house. Back then you couldn’t record in your house, but somehow he was able to. I asked him to show me how he made his music, he showed me and I was hooked.

Who would have thought a new dream could come to me? What if i could do music? What if I made music for people that could sing and rap? Yeah, that’s what i wanted to do! I pursued it hard. I ended up going to Columbia College Chicago to study music business, and after that moved to Atlanta to pursue a new dream. It was up and down but I had some success in the industry and had life long lessons that help me to this day.

While the music I created made me feel good, I still felt empty inside. Here I was now in my 20s but still felt an emptiness, because the same question lingered in my mind daily? Why did this happen to me?

A huge defining moment in my life came when one day I got a vision from God. I had the question always why did this happen to me, and one early morning i heard God say to me, you need to make your own project? I thought i wasn’t hearing this vision correctly, but it never left, it nagged me everyday, whatever was speaking to me kept at it until I said OK, but about what? “You need to tell your story, tell your story”

I then said well how can i tell this story in a cool way, but also give hope to others that have gone through such tragic emotional things?

And on that day in 2016, the idea for the Battle Scar Kids came to life. The central theme being, how do you take your pain and turn it into power?

What I didn’t know was that my childhood talents of drawing would come back into play with this project. Music being a big part of my life also played a big part in the development of making this project look and sound cool but have a deeper meaning behind it all. I started to develop an animation, and also a lot of deep research into overcoming trauma.

What I discovered was that creative arts is a huge catalyst to overcoming trauma. I not only wanted to share my story but I wanted to help empower others. Through these characters we can help people see characters that look, talk, walk and act like themselves, but also see hope through their power.

While these characters serve as superheroes, the real life superheroes are who I want to celebrate. The real stories of people overcoming trauma, incidents and negative circumstances. Those of us who felt left out forgotten and abandoned, I want to offer hope.

The next phase of purpose was formed in the Battle Scar Kids foundation. Our work was created to positively impact young adults, teenagers, college students and families. The support behind us has been tremendous. We host battle scar kid live experience events where they get to see the battle scar kids animation, participate in fun games and activities, while learning practical ways to overcome their struggles. We also show them career opportunities connected to creative arts. I show in real time what overcoming looks like, what thriving instead of just surviving looks like. I am blessed to be able to do such work.

In terms of myself, it took me years and years to heal, and I went from not talking about being blind, and hiding my pain, to now going all over the country talking about it. My healing came, then the real vision came. That vision offers hope to others, offers a way out, a way up, a way through and a way forward. I started a journey to teach others ways to eliminate negative emotions and the stigmas related to trauma. I also felt that had I known better I still could have pursued my dream of playing basketball. This project allows me to show others that pain doesn’t have to last forever, and that your dreams are still real. If we can eliminate the emotions that paralyze you and leave you in constant fear, we can also show you how to still live a life you dream of.

The question of why did this happen to me is being answered in real time. While I still wish I could change the day of July 4, 1994, I also carry a greater responsibility. If it had to happen to someone, and that someone happened to be me, to carry out a mission of helping others, then I accept!

I leave with these thoughts, its a myth that pain has to last forever. It’s a lie that you cant ever recover and that you have to suffer for the rest of your life. You can heal, you can overcome, you can still dream and live out your dreams at a high level. I am a living witness, and I am doing it daily! The inspirational hellen Keller once said, “blindness isnt seeing, it’s having no vision.” My vision is to empower, inspire, and enlighten those who may have lost hope due to a circumstance. There still is hope, there still is a purpose, and I hope that the battle scar kids helps to bring your purpose to life!

If you would like to help support our mission, visit us at battlescarkids.com for cool fun storytelling connected to a strong purpose, or visit battlescarkidsfoundation.org. Follow us @battlescarkids and stay connected with us.

Jamar Jackson-Wilson, I am a battle scar kid!

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Examples of What We Offer

Here are some specific examples of what partnership with us can look like. Every plan is customized — this is just a starting point.

PD Workshop Examples

Classroom wellbeing audit 

Classroom teachers assess their current wellbeing supports, identify specific strengths and gaps, and actively engage with research-based strategies to create an action plan for supporting student wellbeing in the classroom. This audit is more than a checklist—it’s a mirror that reflects how your everyday choices shape the mental health and wellbeing of everyone in your classroom. By pausing to rate, reflect, and plan, you will:

  1. Surface hidden stress points and strengths in your routines, environment, and relationships
  2. Connect concrete teaching practices (pacing, feedback, space design) to student and educator wellbeing
  3. Build shared language and data‐driven insights to guide micro‐interventions and systemic change
  4. Empower yourself and colleagues to co‐design evidence-based strategies that boost resilience, engagement, and trust
  5. Establish a continuous improvement cycle: audit → act → measure → refine

Specialized mental health skill-building workshops 

This goes beyond basic literacy to provide staff with practical skills and techniques for managing specific situations and promoting positive mental health within the school. 

Examples

  1. “De-escalation Strategies for School Staff.” A hands-on workshop teaching verbal and non-verbal techniques for safely de-escalating agitated or distressed students. 
  2. “Building Resilience and Coping Skills in the Classroom.” A training focused on equipping teachers with activities and strategies they can directly implement with students to foster resilience, teach coping mechanisms for stress, and promote emotional regulation. 
  3. “Creating Trauma-Informed Classrooms.” A workshop series exploring the impact of trauma on learning and behavior, and providing practical strategies for creating a safe, predictable, and supportive classroom environment that promotes healing and learning.
  4. “Mental Health & Wellbeing First Operational Mindset for Administrators”: When school leaders shift from a purely operational mindset to a mental‑health‑first mindset, the entire culture changes—students feel safer, staff feel supported, and families feel more connected. This workshop provides high‑impact, administrator‑friendly strategies. They’re concrete, actionable, and designed to fit into the real world of school leadership.

Adult SEL development 

Just as students benefit from developing social-emotional skills, so do adults. Adult SEL focuses on educators understanding their own emotions, managing impulses, setting goals, showing empathy, building healthy relationships, and making responsible decisions. 

Examples

  1. Interactive Workshops: Conduct workshops exploring each of the core SEL competencies (self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, relationship skills, responsible decision-making) through activities, group discussions, and reflection exercises.  
  2. SEL Integration Training: Train staff on how to weave SEL into their daily interactions, curriculum, and classroom management strategies. This includes explicit instruction on SEL concepts for students, creating opportunities for students to practice SEL skills, and integrating SEL into academic content.
  3. Emotion Regulation Strategies: Provide specific training on recognizing and managing challenging emotions in the workplace, including strategies for de-escalation and maintaining composure during stressful situations.

Integration of mental health into curriculum 

Embedding mental health education within the regular curriculum normalizes these topics, reduces stigma, and equips all students with foundational knowledge and skills related to their emotional well-being. Rogers’ understanding of key mental health concepts can inform curriculum development.

Examples

  1. Developing SEL Lessons with Mental Health Components: Collaborate with teachers to integrate lessons on topics like emotional regulation, empathy, and conflict resolution into existing Social-Emotional Learning (SEL) curricula, drawing on Rogers’ therapeutic approaches.
  2. Incorporating Mental Health Themes into English Language Arts: Suggest age-appropriate literature that explores themes of mental health, resilience, and seeking help, and provide teachers with discussion guides developed with input from mental health professionals.
  3. Creating Interactive Activities for Health Class: Develop engaging activities and projects for health classes that teach students about common mental health conditions, coping strategies, and how to access support.

PD Training Examples

Mental health literacy training 

This partnership focuses on equipping school staff with a foundational understanding of mental health concepts, common disorders in children and adolescents, and the importance of early identification and intervention.

Examples

  1. Elementary School Workshop: “Understanding Childhood Anxiety.” Topics could include:
    1. Different types of anxiety in elementary-aged children (separation anxiety, social anxiety, generalized anxiety).
    2. Observable signs and symptoms in the classroom (e.g., avoidance behaviors, physical complaints, difficulty concentrating).
    3. Strategies teachers can use to create a more supportive and less anxiety-provoking classroom environment (e.g., predictable routines, clear expectations, calming techniques).
  2. High School Professional Development Day: “Recognizing and Responding to Teen Depression and Suicidal Ideation.” Topics could include:
    1. Distinguishing between typical adolescent moodiness and signs of depression.
    2. Understanding risk factors and warning signs for suicide.
    3. Evidence-based strategies for talking to students who may be struggling.
    4. School protocols for reporting concerns and accessing support services.
  3. Customized Training for Special Education Staff: “Mental Health Considerations for Students with Learning Differences.” A tailored workshop addressing the unique mental health challenges that students with IEPs may face and strategies for integrating mental health support into their educational plans.

Trauma-Informed practices 

Trauma-informed practice recognizes the widespread impact of trauma and understands potential paths for recovery. In a school setting, this means understanding that students (and staff) may have experienced trauma and that these experiences can affect behavior, relationships, and learning. Training helps staff recognize the signs of trauma, respond in a way that avoids re-traumatization, and create a safe and supportive environment. It also includes understanding secondary trauma or compassion fatigue that educators may experience when working with individuals who have experienced trauma.

Examples

  1. Introductory Workshop: A foundational training on the prevalence and impact of trauma, the principles of trauma-informed care (safety, trustworthiness, peer support, collaboration, empowerment, cultural humility), and recognizing signs of trauma in students and colleagues.
  2. Skill-Building Sessions: Workshops focused on specific trauma-informed strategies, such as creating predictable routines, using de-escalation techniques, fostering a sense of safety and control, and promoting student voice and choice.
  3. Addressing Secondary Trauma: Training specifically addressing the impact of working with traumatized individuals on the helper, providing strategies for self-care and seeking support to prevent compassion fatigue and burnout.

Educator Resilience-Building Workshop Examples

Mindfulness and stress reduction workshops for staff 

Mindfulness involves paying attention to the present moment without judgment. Stress reduction techniques are practical strategies designed to lower physiological and psychological responses to stress. Training in these areas equips educators with tools to manage the inherent demands and pressures of their job, cultivate a sense of calm, and increase their capacity to be present and responsive.

Examples

  1. Workshop Series: A series of workshops (30-60 minutes each) delivered after school or during professional development time. 
  2. Short, Practical Sessions: Offer 15-minute guided mindfulness or breathing exercises before staff meetings or during designated breaks.
  3. Online Modules: Provide access to self-paced online modules on stress management and mindfulness techniques.

Building resilience (CLE)

Resilience is the ability to adapt well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress. Training in resilience helps educators identify their strengths, develop positive coping mechanisms, cultivate optimism, and build strong support networks. 

Examples

  1. Interactive Workshops: Sessions exploring the key components of resilience (e.g., self-awareness, self-regulation, optimism, connection, purpose). Activities could include identifying personal strengths, developing positive self-talk strategies, and practicing problem-solving skills.
  2. Goal Setting and Action Planning: Training on setting realistic goals and developing action plans to navigate challenges and achieve a sense of accomplishment.
  3. Building Support Networks: Facilitating discussions and activities that encourage staff to build strong relationships with colleagues and identify external sources of support.

Enhancing school climate – for the staff

School climate refers to the quality and character of school life. A positive school climate for staff is characterized by trust, respect, collegiality, collaboration, and a sense of belonging. Consultation focuses on identifying areas for improvement and implementing strategies to foster a more supportive and positive environment.

Examples

  1. Team-Building Activities: Recommending and facilitating team-building activities that promote positive relationships and a sense of community among staff.
  2. Recognition and Appreciation Programs: Consulting on developing formal or informal programs to recognize and appreciate staff contributions and efforts.
  3. Creating Opportunities for Social Connection: Advising on creating spaces and opportunities for informal social interaction among staff.

Systemic Examples

Needs assessment and strategic planning (CLE)

A systematic process of gathering information about the current state of staff wellbeing within the school, identifying key stressors, and understanding the needs and preferences of the staff. This data then informs the development of a targeted and effective plan for implementing wellbeing initiatives.

Examples

  1. Administering Surveys: Using anonymous surveys to gather data on staff stress levels, workload perceptions, access to resources, and interest in different types of wellbeing support.
  2. Conducting Focus Groups: Facilitating small group discussions with staff from different roles (teachers, administrators, support staff) to gain deeper qualitative insights into their experiences and needs.
  3. Reviewing Existing Data: Analyzing existing school data such as attendance records (staff absences), staff turnover rates, and incident reports (if relevant to stress/conflict).
  4. Collaborative Goal Setting: Working with the school leadership team and wellbeing committee to set specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART) goals for improving staff wellbeing.

Developing supportive policies and practices 

Examining existing school policies, procedures, and unwritten norms to identify those that may contribute to staff stress or hinder wellbeing. Consulting on modifications or new policies that actively promote a healthy work environment.

Examples

  1. Communication Protocols: Advising on establishing clear and efficient communication protocols to reduce ambiguity and information overload.
  2. Meeting Structures: Consulting on making meetings more efficient and purposeful, perhaps by designating some meetings specifically for collaboration or wellbeing check-ins rather than just information dissemination.
  3. Establishing Boundaries: Providing guidance on establishing and respecting professional boundaries regarding work emails and communication outside of school hours.

Consultation on school mental health systems 

This involves leveraging Rogers’ understanding of best practices in mental health care to advise schools on the development and implementation of comprehensive systems that support student and staff well-being.

Examples

  1. Developing a School-Wide Mental Health Protocol: Consulting with a school district to create a clear and consistent protocol for identifying students in need of mental health support, conducting initial assessments, making referrals, and collaborating with external providers (including Rogers, if appropriate).
  2. Implementing a Multi-Tiered System of Supports (MTSS) for Mental Health: Advising a school on integrating mental health supports within their existing MTSS framework, ensuring that all students receive appropriate levels of support based on their needs.
  3. Conducting a Mental Health Needs Assessment: Partnering with a school to administer surveys and conduct focus groups with students, staff, and parents to identify key mental health needs and inform the development of targeted interventions and supports.

Integrating wellbeing into existing structures 

Embedding wellbeing initiatives within the school’s existing operational framework rather than treating them as separate, add-on programs. This ensures long-term sustainability and demonstrates that wellbeing is a priority.

Examples

  1. Professional Development Alignment: Integrating wellbeing topics into regular professional development days or staff training sessions.
  2. Staff Meeting Agendas: Including a dedicated agenda item for staff wellbeing check-ins or sharing wellbeing tips during weekly staff meetings.
  3. School Improvement Plans: Incorporating goals related to staff wellbeing into the school’s overall improvement plan.

 

Coaching Examples

Leadership coaching

Coaching specifically designed for school administrators and team leaders. This focuses on developing their leadership skills related to supporting staff wellbeing, creating a positive team culture, and effectively managing workplace dynamics that can impact stress levels.

Examples

  1. Promoting Work-Life Balance: Coaching leaders on modeling healthy work-life boundaries and encouraging their staff to do the same.
  2. Building Team Cohesion: Working with leaders on strategies to foster a sense of teamwork, trust, and psychological safety within their teams.
  3. Mentor Coaching for New School Administrators on Fostering a Positive School Climate: Pairing experienced administrators with new leaders and providing coaching focused on creating a supportive and mentally healthy environment for both students and staff.

Individual wellbeing coaching

A confidential and supportive partnership between a trained coach and an individual staff member. The coach helps the staff member identify their wellbeing goals, explore challenges, develop strategies, and build self-awareness and resilience. This is particularly helpful for staff experiencing high levels of stress, burnout, or those seeking to proactively enhance their wellbeing.

Examples

  1. Goal Setting Sessions: Initial coaching sessions focused on helping the staff member clarify their wellbeing goals (e.g., reducing stress, improving work-life balance, developing better coping skills).
  2. Strategy Development: Working with the staff member to identify and practice specific strategies for managing stressors and improving wellbeing (e.g., time management techniques, communication skills, boundary setting).
  3. Reflection and Problem-Solving: Providing a space for the staff member to reflect on their experiences, process challenges, and problem-solve difficult situations.

Instructional coaching with a wellbeing lens 

Integrating conversations and support around wellbeing into existing instructional coaching cycles. This recognizes that teacher wellbeing is intertwined with their classroom practice and provides a holistic approach to support.

Examples

  1. Managing Classroom Stressors: Coaches can work with teachers to develop strategies for managing challenging student behaviors, reducing classroom disruptions, and creating a more calm and predictable learning environment.
  2. Building Positive Student Relationships: Coaching on techniques for building strong, positive relationships with students, which can be a source of both joy and stress for teachers.
  3. Workload Management within Instruction: Helping teachers prioritize tasks related to planning, grading, and differentiation in a way that feels manageable.
  4. Reflecting on Emotional Responses: Coaching teachers to reflect on their emotional responses to classroom situations and develop strategies for managing those emotions constructively.

Peer coaching programs 

Training selected staff members to serve as peer coaches for their colleagues. This leverages internal expertise and fosters a culture of mutual support within the school. Peer coaches can provide a confidential and relatable source of support, sharing strategies and offering encouragement.

Examples

  1. Coach Training: Training peer coaches in basic coaching skills, active listening, confidentiality, and boundary setting.
  2. Structured Check-ins: Establishing a structure for peer coaching interactions, such as regular informal check-ins or more formal scheduled conversations.
  3. Providing Resources: Peer coaches can share relevant wellbeing resources with their colleagues.