Have you ever taken inventory of your social circles and asked yourself, “Do I feel seen, supported or psychologically (emotionally) safe?”
If you answered “no” to any of these three areas, it may lead to difficulty with speaking up for yourself which is known as self-advocacy. This is your ability to communicate your own interests, desires, needs and rights effectively and boldly.
People who self-advocate are more likely to let others know how they feel and what they need to thrive in many areas of life including relationships, at work and in your community.
Perhaps your ability to identify and manage your own emotions as well as identify and adapt to other people’s emotions influences speaking up for yourself. It’s essentially about emotional sensitivity to the world around you which is called emotional intelligence.
I can imagine there have been times when people tried to silence you. Guess what? You survived those moments. It’s in your ability to work through these challenges that makes you a great self-advocate.
As a Black woman, I am often in spaces where I’m one of few if not the “only one in the room” which means the spaces often don’t have people that look at me and attempts to be inclusive have fallen short. This is frustrating.
If you’ve been “the only one,” at times it’s conversational and other times it can feel like you’re invisible. I’ve learned that the sense of invisibility is not because of who I am, but due to the other person’s discomfort with interacting, saying the wrong thing or being afraid to break the norm.
Why this topic?
Many people were never actually taught how to self-advocate but recognize it doesn’t feel good when they’re being walked over or pushed aside.
When I think about my life, I was never taught how to self-advocate – verbally and nonverbally. No one taught me how to bring my whole self into spaces and speak out.
Non-verbally? Yes, non-verbally. Verbal self-advocacy means using your words and non-verbal means using your body language, tone and presence to demonstrate assertiveness.
Speaking up for yourself can be scary especially when you’re in a space where you don’t feel seen, supported or psychologically (emotionally) safe.
No hiding, no censoring, and no code-switching.
According to the Harvard Business Review, “code-switching” is a kind of behavioral adjustment and strategy used by Black people to navigate interracial interactions impacting their well-being, economic development and even physical survival.
It is likely that code-switching is the result of poor emotional intelligence when situations don’t require you to switch, but more so a time to speak up for yourself.
It’s time for you to begin elevating your voice because your voice matters.
McCluney, C., Robotham, K., Lee, S., Smith, R., & Durkee, M. (2019). The cost of codeswitching. Harvard Business Review. Retrieved on 11/1/22 from https://hbr.org/2019/11/the-costs-of-codeswitching
The Institute for Health and Human Potential. Meaning of emotional intelligence. Retrieved on 11/1/22 from https://www.ihhp.com/meaning-of-emotional-intelligence/
Dr. Dominique Pritchett is a licensed therapist and well-being and belonging strategist helping people evolve by providing access to solutions necessary for them to navigate life. She is a sought-after expert on trauma, emotional intelligence, psychological safety, workplace and community culture, and burnout prevention. Dr. Pritchett strategically engages and educates audiences through thought-provoking stories, relevant statistics and actionable steps resulting in immediate actionable steps. Dr. Pritchett has spoken at numerous corporations, colleges, conferences, and community organizations around the world.
Here are some specific examples of what partnership with us can look like. Every plan is customized — this is just a starting point.
Classroom wellbeing auditClassroom teachers assess their current wellbeing supports, identify specific strengths and gaps, and actively engage with research-based strategies to create an action plan for supporting student wellbeing in the classroom. This audit is more than a checklist—it’s a mirror that reflects how your everyday choices shape the mental health and wellbeing of everyone in your classroom. By pausing to rate, reflect, and plan, you will:
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Specialized mental health skill-building workshopsThis goes beyond basic literacy to provide staff with practical skills and techniques for managing specific situations and promoting positive mental health within the school. Examples
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Adult SEL developmentJust as students benefit from developing social-emotional skills, so do adults. Adult SEL focuses on educators understanding their own emotions, managing impulses, setting goals, showing empathy, building healthy relationships, and making responsible decisions. Examples
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Integration of mental health into curriculumEmbedding mental health education within the regular curriculum normalizes these topics, reduces stigma, and equips all students with foundational knowledge and skills related to their emotional well-being. Rogers’ understanding of key mental health concepts can inform curriculum development. Examples
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Mental health literacy trainingThis partnership focuses on equipping school staff with a foundational understanding of mental health concepts, common disorders in children and adolescents, and the importance of early identification and intervention. Examples
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Trauma-Informed practicesTrauma-informed practice recognizes the widespread impact of trauma and understands potential paths for recovery. In a school setting, this means understanding that students (and staff) may have experienced trauma and that these experiences can affect behavior, relationships, and learning. Training helps staff recognize the signs of trauma, respond in a way that avoids re-traumatization, and create a safe and supportive environment. It also includes understanding secondary trauma or compassion fatigue that educators may experience when working with individuals who have experienced trauma. Examples
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Mindfulness and stress reduction workshops for staffMindfulness involves paying attention to the present moment without judgment. Stress reduction techniques are practical strategies designed to lower physiological and psychological responses to stress. Training in these areas equips educators with tools to manage the inherent demands and pressures of their job, cultivate a sense of calm, and increase their capacity to be present and responsive. Examples
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Building resilience (CLE)Resilience is the ability to adapt well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress. Training in resilience helps educators identify their strengths, develop positive coping mechanisms, cultivate optimism, and build strong support networks. Examples
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Enhancing school climate – for the staffSchool climate refers to the quality and character of school life. A positive school climate for staff is characterized by trust, respect, collegiality, collaboration, and a sense of belonging. Consultation focuses on identifying areas for improvement and implementing strategies to foster a more supportive and positive environment. Examples
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Needs assessment and strategic planning (CLE)A systematic process of gathering information about the current state of staff wellbeing within the school, identifying key stressors, and understanding the needs and preferences of the staff. This data then informs the development of a targeted and effective plan for implementing wellbeing initiatives. Examples
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Developing supportive policies and practicesExamining existing school policies, procedures, and unwritten norms to identify those that may contribute to staff stress or hinder wellbeing. Consulting on modifications or new policies that actively promote a healthy work environment. Examples
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Consultation on school mental health systemsThis involves leveraging Rogers’ understanding of best practices in mental health care to advise schools on the development and implementation of comprehensive systems that support student and staff well-being. Examples
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Integrating wellbeing into existing structuresEmbedding wellbeing initiatives within the school’s existing operational framework rather than treating them as separate, add-on programs. This ensures long-term sustainability and demonstrates that wellbeing is a priority. Examples
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Leadership coachingCoaching specifically designed for school administrators and team leaders. This focuses on developing their leadership skills related to supporting staff wellbeing, creating a positive team culture, and effectively managing workplace dynamics that can impact stress levels. Examples
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Individual wellbeing coachingA confidential and supportive partnership between a trained coach and an individual staff member. The coach helps the staff member identify their wellbeing goals, explore challenges, develop strategies, and build self-awareness and resilience. This is particularly helpful for staff experiencing high levels of stress, burnout, or those seeking to proactively enhance their wellbeing. Examples
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Instructional coaching with a wellbeing lensIntegrating conversations and support around wellbeing into existing instructional coaching cycles. This recognizes that teacher wellbeing is intertwined with their classroom practice and provides a holistic approach to support. Examples
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Peer coaching programsTraining selected staff members to serve as peer coaches for their colleagues. This leverages internal expertise and fosters a culture of mutual support within the school. Peer coaches can provide a confidential and relatable source of support, sharing strategies and offering encouragement. Examples
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