I decided to write this following my last work-related mental health crisis resulting in me “quitting on the spot.” It was the first time I did not ponder about letting go. After weeks of contemplating leaving, I began to give notice in advance leading up to that day based on what I failed to learn from previous exit attempts to leave in silence. For months I searched employment leads thinking about starting a new work life. I made promises to myself that it would be different this time. I would work on developing healthy boundaries and remaining true to myself.
So, what happened this time? Just another case of burnout? My symptoms were textbook: fatigue, cynicism, distrust, mental and physical exhaustion, moody, and a lack of motivation. In other words, I checked out! No longer at the age where job hopping is possible. Although my resume looks like a beautiful evening gown, it rests on another tireless night at home. After going from interview to interview, I quickly ruled out my education and experience as assets. This time unlike other times, I could not bounce back. As I was going through the application process, I could not help but think about the times when I interviewed, believing the interviewer knew my story. I felt they knew they would not consider me for the position but wanted to entertain themselves (trauma brain thinking). Questions they asked seemed specific to previous incidents experienced. Although suspicious, I maintained and went along with the process.
The most challenging process for me in all of this is the one question I have yet to be honest when answering. During the last phase of the application process, it listed “voluntary questions.” These questions ask about your race or ethnicity, United States Veteran status, and if you have a disability. I always pause at the question, “Do you have a disability?” and contemplate each time over the three answers, yes, no, or refuse to answer. I do not want to say yes, because saying yes means you may be discriminated against. Although, companies are not supposed to discriminate against persons living with a disability according to the American Disability Act. Knowing what I know, being discriminated against is different from being stigmatized. The hypocrisy as a mental health professional with a mental health disorder, “I struggle with the internal stigma of checking the disability box.” The grief that comes with those limitations living with anxiety and depression.
At this time, I feel confident. I have made the right choice on behalf of self-compassion of my anxiety and depression. I recognized it more clearly than I had before. I walked away feeling empowered, self-assured, and mentally safe. As one person pointed out to me, “You have to be loyal to you first.” Those words inspired me!
I am a person who lives with generalized anxiety and depressed mood. I am prescribed psychotropic medications to control my symptoms related to anxiety, depression, and compulsive/impulsive disorder. I have been on medication for 13-years with the exception of a couple of times when I tried to stop taking the medication and had terrible outcomes. Before the medication, I self-medicated for 15 years, and between sobriety and medication, I lived with dry drunk syndrome (DDS). Although I have made numerous attempts to connect with a psychiatrist or nurse practitioner with or without insurance, it is not easy to navigate this system, especially as a provider. I am a middle-aged, middle class, Black woman. Based on my education and experience, I should be upper middle class working in a reliable and fulfilling job, but because my check box for living with a disability remains unchecked, my employment status will continue to remain uncertain. Thank you for reading. I will keep you up to date on my progress.
Terri Ellzey, LPC, CSAC is a licensed professional counselor and clinical substance abuse counselor currently working as an independent contractor. She is involved working as an educator and advocate with issues centered on institutional and structural racism. She is currently attending Fielding Graduate University working on her doctorate in education. Her dissertation interest is to examine the intersectionality of racist euphemisms and dog-whistle democracy when justifying racial double standards in a country built on “All men are created equal.” She is currently on sabbatical as she dedicates the bulk of her time to course work and family. She is a member and participant of the WISE planning committee.
Here are some specific examples of what partnership with us can look like. Every plan is customized — this is just a starting point.
Classroom wellbeing auditClassroom teachers assess their current wellbeing supports, identify specific strengths and gaps, and actively engage with research-based strategies to create an action plan for supporting student wellbeing in the classroom. This audit is more than a checklist—it’s a mirror that reflects how your everyday choices shape the mental health and wellbeing of everyone in your classroom. By pausing to rate, reflect, and plan, you will:
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Specialized mental health skill-building workshopsThis goes beyond basic literacy to provide staff with practical skills and techniques for managing specific situations and promoting positive mental health within the school. Examples
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Adult SEL developmentJust as students benefit from developing social-emotional skills, so do adults. Adult SEL focuses on educators understanding their own emotions, managing impulses, setting goals, showing empathy, building healthy relationships, and making responsible decisions. Examples
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Integration of mental health into curriculumEmbedding mental health education within the regular curriculum normalizes these topics, reduces stigma, and equips all students with foundational knowledge and skills related to their emotional well-being. Rogers’ understanding of key mental health concepts can inform curriculum development. Examples
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Mental health literacy trainingThis partnership focuses on equipping school staff with a foundational understanding of mental health concepts, common disorders in children and adolescents, and the importance of early identification and intervention. Examples
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Trauma-Informed practicesTrauma-informed practice recognizes the widespread impact of trauma and understands potential paths for recovery. In a school setting, this means understanding that students (and staff) may have experienced trauma and that these experiences can affect behavior, relationships, and learning. Training helps staff recognize the signs of trauma, respond in a way that avoids re-traumatization, and create a safe and supportive environment. It also includes understanding secondary trauma or compassion fatigue that educators may experience when working with individuals who have experienced trauma. Examples
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Mindfulness and stress reduction workshops for staffMindfulness involves paying attention to the present moment without judgment. Stress reduction techniques are practical strategies designed to lower physiological and psychological responses to stress. Training in these areas equips educators with tools to manage the inherent demands and pressures of their job, cultivate a sense of calm, and increase their capacity to be present and responsive. Examples
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Building resilience (CLE)Resilience is the ability to adapt well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress. Training in resilience helps educators identify their strengths, develop positive coping mechanisms, cultivate optimism, and build strong support networks. Examples
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Enhancing school climate – for the staffSchool climate refers to the quality and character of school life. A positive school climate for staff is characterized by trust, respect, collegiality, collaboration, and a sense of belonging. Consultation focuses on identifying areas for improvement and implementing strategies to foster a more supportive and positive environment. Examples
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Needs assessment and strategic planning (CLE)A systematic process of gathering information about the current state of staff wellbeing within the school, identifying key stressors, and understanding the needs and preferences of the staff. This data then informs the development of a targeted and effective plan for implementing wellbeing initiatives. Examples
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Developing supportive policies and practicesExamining existing school policies, procedures, and unwritten norms to identify those that may contribute to staff stress or hinder wellbeing. Consulting on modifications or new policies that actively promote a healthy work environment. Examples
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Consultation on school mental health systemsThis involves leveraging Rogers’ understanding of best practices in mental health care to advise schools on the development and implementation of comprehensive systems that support student and staff well-being. Examples
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Integrating wellbeing into existing structuresEmbedding wellbeing initiatives within the school’s existing operational framework rather than treating them as separate, add-on programs. This ensures long-term sustainability and demonstrates that wellbeing is a priority. Examples
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Leadership coachingCoaching specifically designed for school administrators and team leaders. This focuses on developing their leadership skills related to supporting staff wellbeing, creating a positive team culture, and effectively managing workplace dynamics that can impact stress levels. Examples
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Individual wellbeing coachingA confidential and supportive partnership between a trained coach and an individual staff member. The coach helps the staff member identify their wellbeing goals, explore challenges, develop strategies, and build self-awareness and resilience. This is particularly helpful for staff experiencing high levels of stress, burnout, or those seeking to proactively enhance their wellbeing. Examples
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Instructional coaching with a wellbeing lensIntegrating conversations and support around wellbeing into existing instructional coaching cycles. This recognizes that teacher wellbeing is intertwined with their classroom practice and provides a holistic approach to support. Examples
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Peer coaching programsTraining selected staff members to serve as peer coaches for their colleagues. This leverages internal expertise and fosters a culture of mutual support within the school. Peer coaches can provide a confidential and relatable source of support, sharing strategies and offering encouragement. Examples
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